“We are the most in-debt, obese, addicted and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history. The problem is, and I learned this from the research, that you cannot selectively numb emotion. You can’t say, here’s the bad stuff. Here’s vulnerability, here’s grief, here’s shame, here’s fear, here’s disappointment. I don’t want to feel these. I’m going to have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin.” -Brene Brown
Brene Brown puts our current experience into brilliant words. We live in a world where everyone is trying to one up the other, be the best at something, prove their worth to others. We’re supposed to lead happy, stress-free lives; go to work at a job we love, stop at the gym on the way home, make a beautiful, Instagram-worthy dinner, have the energy to clean the house, do laundry, see all of our friends, and go to bed with a smile, ready to do it all again. We’re taught to remain calm, put on a happy face, be grateful no matter what. In reality, we all experience the typical human emotions – anxiety, depression, stress, sadness. These feelings that are labeled more negative are not allowed to be shown, thus creating a really complicated and private inner world.
Humans typically have 20,000 thoughts a day. At least 80% of these thoughts are, on average, more negative, self-berating, and damaging. Think about your inner dialogue. Imagine what it would be like to express some of these day to day worries and fears with others, work through them and change this inner dialogue to a more positive, compassionate voice. That’s why I wanted to create this blog.
My name is Ilana, and I graduated with my Master’s in Mental Health Counseling and Behavioral Medicine. I live in Boston, and I work at an eating disorder center, working with individuals who struggle with eating disorders, depression, anxiety, and trauma backgrounds. My clients do a lot of really hard work in order to learn to love themselves, respect their stories, and move forward to a life where they can live in the present and be proud of themselves. I see the incredible progress they can make once they allow themselves to feel their emotions, learn where they’re coming from, and learn how to express them. I want that for all of you. I want this to be a supportive place where everyone can talk about their struggles, their accomplishments, their dreams. I am interested in mental health, nutrition, exercise, meditation, and public health. Here, I will post ideas and strategies from counseling theories, recipes, interviews with inspiring happy and healthy role models, exercises that are fun, and I will always include readers in every step of the way. This is a supportive community where we move to a place of acceptance and will reach our full potential, together.